Children?

[Astral Chaos]

(IMHO) The name that a person chooses for their child(ren) reflects their personality. I’ve seen threads similar to this on other sites and I thought that it would make an interesting addition to the numerous threads that we have here at Charmed: Reset Reality. Now, instead of the normal ‘Baby Names’ thread I decided to take it one step further and ask you guys how many children would be your ideal amount, boy(s) or girl(s), would any be adopted etc...

Myself, I’m all for adoption. I honestly don’t believe that somebody is family because they share the same blood, if you catch my drift. This is partly because my sister is adopted, but also because my asshole of a “father” walked out on my family shortly after my brother’s birth. In my opinion family is earned. So yeah, I definitely want to adopt.

Personally, I would like a large family.

Anyways, I’ll come back some other time and post the names, the sexes etc ...

Anyways, enjoy!

[Astral Echo]

Ideally I'd love to have a big family as my extended is already quite large and I love us all getting together. On top of that my Mum and Dad wanted lots of kids but couldn't afford to have any more than my brother and me.

If I have enough I'd love to have seven children, four girls and three boys. I might stretch to a few more if we can. However if money is tight than three children would have to do.

Genetics wise I have a good chance of getting a reasonably amount of each sex as though my only sibling was a boy my father had one sister and two brothers while my mothers parents had three girls and one son. A pretty even amount if you ask me, it simply depends on whether my partner can balance it out as well.

Names? I'm more traditional generally but at the same time I like pretty and original names. Two names for girls so far are: Renate and Everlyn. While for boys names I like: Theo(dore), Noah, Milo and Harrison.

Children are always going to be a big part of my life. I won't rule out adoption, especially during later life but while I am young, I'd like my kids to be blood related - not that they would be treated any differently but I just feel I'd have more of a connection with them while adoption can turn out horribly.

[Harrison]

Hey, Harrison is my name! Very nice choice.

I also agree that adoption can make people just as close as blood-relation can. Plus, adoption can definitely sometimes e better, especially because you are giving someone a place to live - not to mention, the chance to be part of a family.

So yeah, great thread. I'll come back and discuss more when I have time.

[Deleted]

Well, I'm 55 and still no boyfriends in sight, so children are out of the question, since as a single, I would never adopt.

But when I was young, I always planned on having four--first a daughter named Janet after my mom, then a son named Jeremy because I like the name and then a set of twins, a boy named Davy after my brother and a girl named Debbie after my best friend. Then I always wanted to adopt a little girl from a different country and name her Karena.

My sister came up with the name Karena by adding an "a" to Karen and pronouncing it "ka RE na" and I always thought it was so pretty.

We have twins in my mom's family (every other generation, and my mother's mother had two sets of them, plus my dad *is* a twin) so I always planned on having twins and always hoped they wouldn't be identical so I wouldn't treat them both the same. Funny but none of my siblings ever had twins, although three of my cousins had them, so maybe I wouldn't have, but I still planned for it.

Naturally, now I know the names would have also been up to my husband, and he might have hated those names, but those were my plans back then.

[Fourever Charmed]

lol It seems like everywhere I turn, people are either talking about or having children. So naturally, I've given a lot of thought to this and I've had the names of my kids picked out since I was fourteen.

I want four daughters. I don't have anything against adoption, but I don't really think it's for me. I've also decided that I want to have hydro hypnotic births with each (like I said, a lot of thought). I absolutely despise pain medication, I will suffer a migraine if it means avoiding medicine, so you may think I'm crazy...but I just can't do medicine. And I want to have all four by age thirty-five. But, I don't want to have any kids until after I'm twenty-one. Ideally, I'd like to have my first child between twenty-one and twenty-five.

Now with that said, onto the names:

Rose Forrestine May:
Rose - This is my all time favorite name ever. I don't know why, but I just LOVE it! Even before I saw Titanic, it's always been my favorite name and I loved it even more after that movie.

Forrestine - This is my mom's first name. (She was named after her grandmother and her grandmother was named after her uncle Forrest who died in the aftermath of the 1906 earthquake in San Francisco. I believe he got gangrene.) It's also just a very unique name that you don't hear very often. (I only know of three people by that name: my mom, my great-grandmother, and an author my mother told me about.)

May - My last name. Sorry, but I don't like the idea that the guy should always be the one to pass on his name. If I ever get married (I somewhat like the idea of never doing so), I won't take his last name and I will definitely not be giving my kids any other last name than mine. It's just the way I feel.

Scarlet Martorana May:
Scarlet - This is my second favorite name ever! And yes, if you're wondering, it became so after I watched Gone With The Wind (back in third grade). I like it spelt with only one "t" though.

Martorana - This is actually an old family surname, my paternal grandmother's maiden name to be exact. It has Italian and Sicilian roots, as my great-great grandfather came over from Italy. I've got a lot of Italian pride and I've always felt that my grandmother's maiden name was gorgeous and it flows so beautifully with the name Scarlet.

May - See above.

Clarity May:
Clarity - One of my best friends at the time I met her wanted to legally change her name to this. She hated her name - Anna - and thought this sounded better. I've always loved it, it just has a pretty ring to it and it's unique.

May - See above.

Penelaby May:
Penelaby - This is the only one I might be flexible with. Back when I first started doing research on my family tree, this name popped up as an ancestress from so many generations back that I lost count. I thought it was odd and interesting and I kind of liked it and loved the idea of giving one of my kids a name from so far back in my family line. But a few years later I discovered it may possibly be a typo for Penelope (or someone in the family just decided to get creative, which let me tell you, there was not a lot of back then).

May - See above.

As for my chances of having all girls? I have no idea. Probably not good. My paternal grandfather had four sons and a daughter. My father had me and a son. My aunt had a daughter. My only uncle that had children had a daughter and a son. And my cousin is having a baby this January, but the sex is unknown because it's stubborn and crossed it's legs.

On my mother's side my grandfather was a twin (he had a twin sister named Nanoma) and an older sister named Audrey. He also had two daughters, my mother and a girl approximately ten years older from his first marriage. My mother's never met her, though, and we don't even know her name, so I don't know what happened with her. I don't really know much beyond that though, if twins run in his side of the family or not. So I guess it's possible that I could have twins, but probably unlikely. (Though they do say it sometimes skips a generation. I actually wouldn't mind having twins.)

[Astral Chaos]

My last name. Sorry, but I don't like the idea that the guy should always be the one to pass on his name.

Personally, I doesn't bother me if it's the father's last name that gets passed on or the mother's. Although, truthfully, I want my kids to have hyphenated last names, which with my family name (which I don't feel comfortable with sharing) wouldn't be too bad as it's not very long and flows with pretty much anything. That being said it would also depend on my partner's/wife's last name.

Oh, and whilst I also feel no real need to get married it can make things a lot easier when adopting, which as I mentioned in my opening post is something I plan to do frequently . But yeah, being unmarried when adopting can make things extremely difficult as some countries I want/plan to adopt from make it brutally hard for unmarried couples to adopt . Yep, I've done my research. But any ways, I think the whole making it ten times harder for unmarried couples to adopt is total bull. *Rants*

And then there are all these really bitchy laws which some countries abide by when it comes to adoption. One annoying law I came across was: "If you already have a child of one gender at home then you can't adopt another of that gender." Ugh! Hopefully by the time I'm ready/old enough to adopt some of those 'tarded laws will have been demolished. And if I ever intended to adopt as a single, being male, severely limits the amount of places which will allow me to adopt.

One place I'm really keen on adopting from is South/Latin America, however, due to complicated adoption laws there I honestly doubt it'll ever happen.

And on a more positive side note:

Two names for girls so far are: Renate and Everlyn.

OMG Dan, Everlyn is such an awesome name! Just out of general curiosity how did you come across it?

I'll either come back and edit this post another time with names I like, places I want to adopt from, more interesting, yet bitchy adoption laws etc... or I'll just create a whole new post altogether.

[Astral Echo]

Everlyn was actually a name I had never heard of and simply made up while I was thinking about having children. I wanted a unique name that had either never been used or rarely used, unfortunatly Everlyn is actually a name but luckily it's particularly popular. I just thought it was a pretty name and it's stuck in my head for years.

[Lexi]

Hmm, baby names...You know something, I've always been a career girl so babies never came up for me until an accident that my Godson was involved in and then it really got me thinking since I'd practically been a mum to the boy anyway, since the mother went AWOL just after he was born.

Anyway, in the end I started thinking about a family of my own. Its not going to happen for a while, since I'm still in a career state of mind but I decided that in about five years time things may change. So...

I would end up with Christopher Dylan for my first boy - that was the name of my Godson - and Elizabeth Haley for my first girl. I'm not really sure for the reason of the names for a girl, they're just two names that I love.

[Astral Chaos]

Okay, I thought I’d quickly voice my opinion on names which some of you have chosen for hypothetical future offspring. I’ll start with Fourever Charmed’s and then move onto Lexi’s:

Fourever Charmed:

Rose Forrestine:
Rose is awesome! It’s really refreshing to see it used as a first name as opposed to a middle (filler) name which is the norm . And Forrestine is such a brilliant, original name. I also love how you using it would honor your mother. And the two names put together make a modern, yet timeless combination.

Scarlet Martorana:
I love Scarlet. It’s sophisticated, fun, and has a really sexy/romantic feel to it. Oh, and it go’s so well with your last name. I’m kind of ‘Eh’ on Martorana as it’s not my style, but (IMHO) it’s a great use of a family surname .

Clarity:
What can I say about this name? It’s beautiful and brings about a sense of serenity, a calming effect if you will. Clarity has to be my favorite name on your list, and with your permission I’d like to add it to my name list? Maybe we can both be original. Lol.

Penelaby:
IMO, Penelaby seems like an ignorant spelling mistake. However, I do like it down on “paper”, the ‘b’ in my opinion, gives the name a certain charm. That said, I’m not a fan of the verbal pronunciation if that makes any sense? Perhaps you think about the first name being Penelope, and there being an ‘Ab(b)y' middle name such as Abigail or Abrianna and so on.

- Note: Assuming you ever have a Clarity and/or a Penelaby would they not have middle names? I’m only asking because you came up with such awesome combos for the first two.

Now onto Lexi:

Christopher Dylan:
Christopher is a nice enough name I guess, I personally wouldn’t use it because of the “Charmed” association, although I once knew a Christopher who went by “Topher” 90% of the time, and I quite liked the nickname. I don’t like Dylan. I do like, however, that you plan to name your first son after you Godson.

Elizabeth Haley:
I prefer Elizabeth as a middle name as opposed to a first name, but other than that it’s a nice name, if a little ... boring. Sorry, just my opinion. I don’t really have an opinion on Haley. It’s a nice name combination though.

And I’ll post my name choices next time. And yes, I have them planned out.

[Fourever Charmed]

Apr 28, 2009 9:41:04 GMT -5 Astral Chaos said:

- Note: Assuming you ever have a Clarity and/or a Penelaby would they not have middle names? I’m only asking because you came up with such awesome combos for the first two.

lol No, they would have middle names, I just haven't found names that struck me like the ones I already listed have. And I decided that on the off chance I ever find a guy that I really want to settle down with, maybe I should leave the middle names open for compromise since I've very set on the Rose Forrestine and Sclarlet Martorana, both of which honor people from my family, it might be nice to leave the last two middle names open in case said hypothetical guy wanted to honor members of his family or at the very least, wanted to choose something he likes since I've already picked out everything else. (Of course if he wanted to choose Sarah or Mary, I'd have to put my foot down because I absolutely despise those names! So boring and unoriginal! They're two of my most hated girls' names. Note: I don't hate people with those names, I just could never choose them myself. I think the only way I could be persuaded was if it was like in memorial to a beloved family member that had passed or was going to pass.)

[Astral Echo]

I can see it now.

Mr Camille: How about Sarah?
Camille: No way.
Mr Camille: But it's my mother name.
Camille: Is she dead?
Mr Camille: No!
Camille: Is she going to die?
Mr Camille: No but she's still my mother.
Camille: Well I hate the name Sarah!
Mr Camille: So what you hate my Mom?!

[Lexi]

Its amazing different people's views on names. I'm more of a traditionalist with names so names like Sarah, Elizabeth, Emma anything like that for a girl I would go for. Its really annoying though, I tend to associate names with people that I know so like the name Danielle, I wouldn't be able to have my daughter with that name purely and simply because when I was growing up there was a girl called Danielle that I really didn't get along with at all!

Anyway...I've completely forgotten what I was actually typing....oh yeah...

I prefer Elizabeth as a middle name as opposed to a first name,

When I think about it, Haley Elizabeth does seem to role off the tongue a little better than Elizabeth Haley. I wouldn't mind it being first or middle name.

I wasn't a big fan of the name Dylan either, but its funny how choices change after something happens.

[Astral Chaos]

I want one daughter. She will be adopted. There is a small chance that I might consider a second child when hypothetical #1 reaches eight or nine. I can't see myself with a large family - especially seeing as how I'd probably be a single parent if I ever have kids.

Fourever, I'm with you on Sarah and Mary. I do like them more than John, though. I also despise the meaning of Mary - Sea Of Bitterness, really? There are only a few names I hate more than the three aforementioned names.

On to the name,

Shire Elora:
Shire - Yes, I'm a nerd. No, the name is not because of Lord Of The Rings. Though, the connection doesn't hurt. I just love how fresh and clean the name sounds. It also feels really Irish, which is something I like.

Elora - I stumbled across Elora rather recently. It's Greek, apparently, and means "The Truth and The Light".

Other names I like paired with Shire:
Fineen ('Little Fair One' - wouldn't this be Ironic on a child adopted from India or Africa? , Merriweather ('One With A Sunny Disposition'), Thea-March* ('Gift Of God'/'Month Of March Or Walk In Unison') and Zipporah ('Bird').

*March would be in honor of me.

For a boy, I've always liked the name Elvis. If I ever do use Elora, then Elvis would be binned.

[NubianWitch]

I'm a bit late on this, but I decided I'd like three girls and one boy in my household. One of them may be a biological child (though if I have them biologically it's a strong chance they'll be twins because my mother was one), but I think most of them will be adopted.

There is a slight 'J' tradition in my family, and in honour of my mom and her twin brother, Paul, I think some of my kids will have middle names which start with 'P'

Jewel Patricia: My mother only had me, her son, and she said if she ever had a girl she'd have named her Jewel. My mother's name is Patricia, so it's only fitting this'd be my daughter's middle name.

Jasmine Prudence: Jasmine is the name of a dear godsister of mine, as well as several friends. It's also one of my favourite flowers and teas. Prudence is my lovely great-aunt's name, who's now deceased and never got the chance to meet me, so it's a tip of the hat to her legacy.

Jennifer Donnette: Jennifer and Donnette are the names of my two amazing older sisters.

Jeffrey Paul: Jeffrey is my brother's name, and Paul as I said earlier is the name of my mom's twin, who died when I was 4 months old.

If I had another boy, his name would be Joshua, as homage to my little brother who was stillborn in 1995.